There's the myth about worship leading. It's passed around like an urban legend - a "somebody knows somebody who knows somebody" sort of thing. It goes like this:

"Be careful, man. My friend knows this church that hates their worship leader. He's on the platform plugging away but it's so hard because they dislike him so much."

That sort of thing used to be very scary to me. Like a lot of scary stories, fear is a good motivator and it always stuck with me: better do a good job and do all you can to make sure people don't hate your guts!

But I don't believe that myth anymore. I'm sure it happens here and there, but I think the story is a lie. I don't think a congregation ever hates their worship leader. It might be a tough relationship that takes a lot of work, but I think the opposite is true.


The people in your congregation want worship to be awesome. Just like you do. They want you to lead them with excellence and kindness and obedience. Even when things get tense in a worship leader/church relationship, I believe the church is on your side. There's a lot to disagree on - style, execution, thematic content, etc. - but those people you serve want to be served well. They're pulling for you.

Why do we need to know this? Because we make bad decisions when we're afraid. When we're constantly trying to guess what will keep everybody the most happy, we can't focus on doing our jobs. We serve our people. We don't pander.

Understanding this concept will make a world of difference in your ministry. It will change how you receive criticism. It will shape the vision you have for your people. It will impact what you buy (and don't buy) with your budget. Anger and frustration (on both sides) always come from unmet expectations. When you believe your congregation wants what's best for you, you'll be much more willing - and able - to get to the bottom of the misunderstandings and unfair expectations that plague worship ministry.

Your church is pulling for you. AND I AM TOO!